🌸 The “Shoulds” That Weigh Us Down

Have you noticed how often the word “should” sneaks into our thoughts?

“I should be able to heal myself faster.”

“I should be able to see all my blind spots.”

“I should know better by now.”

But here’s the thing—
It’s called a blind spot for a reason.

We can’t always see it. Even as a healer who helps others release their blocks, I sometimes struggle to see my own. And that’s okay. That’s human.

Then there are the expectations we place on the people we love:

“My family should understand me.”

“My friends should know what I need without me saying it.”

“They should show up in a certain way.”

And when they don’t? We feel hurt, angry, or disappointed.
But it’s not really them.
It’s the expectations we’ve created.

🌿 Expectations of Myself

As a healer and intuitive, I’ve often put huge expectations on myself:

I should see all of my blind spots.

I should heal faster or as quickly as I do for others.

I should be able to handle everything.

These are a few of my blind spots.
I can’t always see them in myself, no matter how much inner work I’ve done.

And honestly? That’s okay.

I’m learning to forgive myself for these unrealistic expectations—and in doing so, I’ve been feeling lighter and freer.

🌬 The Energy of Expectations

What I’ve learned is that expectations—whether big or small—can create invisible tension in our lives.

They pull us out of gratitude and into judgment.

They make love feel conditional:

“I’ll be happy if you do what I expect.”

On the flip side, I’ve noticed I sometimes feel unworthy or undeserving because of these same expectations—like I’m not enough unless I meet some invisible standard.

And that’s just not true.
None of that defines our worth.

🕊 The Subtle Arrogance of Expectation

When I really look at it, expectations can carry a certain arrogance or entitlement, as if we know exactly how people “should” behave or how life “should” unfold.

But the flip side is just as painful: the feeling that we are unworthy or undeserving when things don’t go our way.

Both sides of this spectrum create suffering.

💗 A Practice of Forgiveness & Release

Today, I decided to do something radical:
I started forgiving myself for all my “shoulds.”

“Thank you, God, for helping me see and release these expectations. Thank you for clearing the pressure I place on myself and others.”

When I release those expectations—even the “positive” ones—I feel lighter, freer, more present. I can love people (and myself) just as we are, without a mental checklist.

🌺 Final Thoughts

Letting go of expectations isn’t about lowering your standards or giving up on your desires. It’s about releasing control, making space for grace, and allowing life to unfold in ways that are often far better than what we imagined.

The more I let go of expectations, the more I find:

Peace in the moment.

Freedom in my relationships.

And a deeper trust in Divine timing.